What's Your Top Three? A Mindset Shift for Prioritizing Your Biggest Goals
Tools and skills are so valuable. Without them you’d have no services to sell, no systems to make your life go smoothly, and no ways to get better at what you do.
However… there is another tool in our toolbox that tends to get overlooked.
And that’s your mindset.
While mindset exercises can sometimes be looked at last, or as an optional step, not having clarity and focus with your vision and goals carries the biggest cost of all - your time.
You could have all the tools, resources, and support at your fingertips - but if your mindset is geared to “hustle” and you have zero clarity, it’s a losing game.
So today, I’m going to teach you one amazing clarity exercise that made a world of a difference for me - so I hope it does the same for you!
Let’s Release the #Hustle
There’s a palpable #hustleharder mentality online. It’s become more visible lately because many are starting to call it out for what it is, which is good. I think a lot of it stems from a desire for people to feel worthy and proud of themselves, thus working harder is such a common way to go after that.
But let’s put it this way, if hustling and sacrifice was the only way to happiness and a good life, then everyone who’s ever worked themselves to the bone would be living it up in the life of their dreams right now.
Choosing to work from a place of harmony instead of hustle doesn’t mean having a nonexistent work ethic, it means choosing to work smarter, not harder. That’s a big difference.
The popular and now very well-known study by Bronnie Waire, who worked in palliative care for the dying for years, puts it as cleanly and plainly as I’ve ever seen it. According to her experiences, these were the top 5 regrets of the dying in her care:
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
I wish that I had let myself be happier.
I hope this list stirs something up in you, because it certainly does for me. What this list tells me is that there is more to life than hustle, money, and “crushing it.” And deep down we all know that.
But at the same time this list celebrates going after a life that you love, one that you’ll be proud of, one that needs no validation from anyone else other than yourself. And to that, I say let’s release the hustle that can lead to burnout and instead unleash the enthusiasm to totally go after those big, dreamy, soul-powered goals with some good ole fashioned guts, enthusiasm, pizza nights, and messiness. (No hustle needed).
Choose Your Top Three
If you’re reading this, you have some huge goals right now. Some that you might not be allowing yourself to fully go after just yet or even admit to yourself that you truly want.
Maybe you’re still testing out the waters, waiting for permission, or waiting for that big “aha” moment where your “thing” finally chooses you. Totally been there, chica, it’s exciting, scary, exhilarating, and nerve-wracking all wrapped up into one. But I have to tell you, I wish I had done this particular exercise a long time ago…
It’s called The Top Three.
The way it works is simple. Just pull out a pen and a journal and jot down your top three goals. The most important goals to you right now. The ones that go ping with excitement and resonance when you think about them.
If you wrote down more than three, go through each one and circle only the three that make your heart happy, make your palms get a little sweaty with excitement, and bring forth that feeling of vibrancy that’s not just a yes, but a hell yes!
You may notice that some of the goals you wrote down are a little scary! Or maybe some are just goals that you thought you “should” be going after, but they’re attached to conditions, obligations, or expectations.
If they don’t come with a feeling of rightness or resonance, scratch ‘em out. Be ruthless, here. These are your goals, after all. You get to choose them!
Use Your Top Three as a Guide
Once you have chosen your top three, sit there for a moment and soak it all up. Saturate yourself in that top three. That feeling is your compass and those three goals are your coordinates.
Write your top three on a post-it note and keep it where you can see it, maybe at the top of your planner each week, or on your computer. Use these three goals as a way to get really clear on your vision. In this way, if something doesn’t match your top three goals or feed your big vision, cut it out.
Knowing your goals will help you get excited, get clear, and make better decisions that will help you move in the direction of your top three more effectively.
Prioritize Your Top Three
Unveiling your top three is an intentional mindset shift in bringing more clarity and direction to any pre-existing overwhelm or hustle mode, which might have felt more like running around like a headless chicken or like an out of control firehose spraying in all sorts of directions.
This exercise lets you target in on your true areas of focus to bring more clarity and direction. Without that clarity, your strategies and actions will reflect that. And working harder or hustling more isn’t the answer, (more like it just fans the fire…)
It’s about simplifying those goals down to the ones that actually matter to you and letting your actions stem from that place and that place only. It’s about being really intentional with your goals and choosing them, not waiting for them to choose you.
The Goal is to Enjoy the Ride
If you feel like you’ve been trying every single strategy on the web lately, or even worse, have been so overwhelmed with all of the advice, noise, and culture of hustle that you haven’t even started, know this:
Knowing your top three will help you hone in on what is truly important to you.
This will help you move forward in a way that actually makes a difference so you can step out of that hamster wheel of hustle once and for all. (It’s best to repeat this exercise quarterly to check in with your progress and stay inspired!)
This exercise gives you permission to make your goals a priority so they weave into your life, not take away from it. This allows you to actually enjoy your life, nurture your relationships, be with your family, and have fun!
When you start to embody this top three mindset shift, even for just one week, things will start to shift in surprising and amazing ways, maybe small, maybe big, and maybe even ways that you don’t expect. Enjoy the ride!
Did You Enjoy This Exercise?
How did it go? Did you get a lot of clarity from this? I would aboslutely love to hear about your experiences and if this has helped you. Please share your biggest takeaways, “aha” moments, or insights below!